and again those two aren’t really close, but she’s not as distant as Sisko. It gives me the impression that at one point trying to handle Julian Sisko slipped into Dad-mode, found it worked and so keeps doing it, even though he’s not sure WHY it works. Julian does come across as the baby of the command crew, what with Jadzia being joined with several lifetimes of experience and Kira who, despite being younger than both Jadzia and Julian only answers to Sisko
and, IMO, comes across as his contemporary. I don’t know, I would have liked to have seen them stuck in the past for a little while longer, see what came it.
Hi!! And hilarious, I didn’t even know Kira was supposed to be younger than Julian! Not that I thought she was significantly older, but I would have guessed she had like, exactly one year on him, and would neeever let him forget it. Because hohh yeah that kid is The Youngest. I mean isn’t “Young” literally Dax’s one-word description of him in one of the first episodes?
But I’m actually not sure I’d say that Sisko treats the station’s precocious child with a paternal distance, because I don’t think those words really go together with Ben. We see what his Dad-mode is with Jake, and we also see him with his own dad, and if I had to pick one word that characterizes those relationships, it would be WARMTH. The Sisko men are extraordinarily affectionate with each other, which is the marker by which we can see that no, he’s not particularly affectionate with Julian. They have a fond and functional working relationship, but they aren’t close.
You know, you mentioned “Outside their roles of Captain and doctor,” and I almost wonder if there isn’t really an outside of those roles for them. They might be one of the most officer-y pairs on the station, actually. Like, I’m not the only one who feels like we’ve time traveled to some field camp in France any time Julian calls Captain Sisko ‘sir’, right? Julian just goes profoundly Lieutenant around him at times, and if you’re Sisko, the correct response to this is to be very Captain in return.
Honestly, I think I’d actually suggest that the exception to Sisko’s usual would be if he WERE to move beyond the Starfleet semi-formal. It’s special that he and Major Kira have developed a personal relationship. His friendship with Dax predates his tenure on DS9, so she’s an exception as well, but beyond that, Ben’s really not that close with anyone else. He behaves much like he does with Julian with Worf, Chief O’Brien, Odo, Nog. It’s the tragedy of being the Captain, because to be a good commanding officer — and Benjamin Sisko is — he needs to maintain some distance. Which means we end up with the rather adorable fact that one of the most reliable ways the show has come up with to let him show CO-appropriate affection for his senior staff, is to adamantly defend them in legal entanglements. Across a whole series of space courts he has served as the chief defense counsel for Jadzia, Worf, and Julian, and fought like the dickens behind the scenes for Miles as well, and every time my reaction is just like \o/ THE CAPTAIN IS HERE, WE’RE SAVED. Which is how I imagine his crew feels in those moments too.
Anyway, it’s all the way at the end here that I suddenly realize it may have meant something that Kasidy’s familial “Well hello stranger” to Julian takes place at the start of the episode in which Ben begins hard fretting over her Not Being In Starfleet.